Distance is just a test to see...how far love can travel.

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As cheesy as this sounds, I suppose it’s true. Maybe it’s because I’m biased — and undoubtedly, I am (which you can’t blame me for, really, being in a long distance relationship(LDR) for 4 years).

A long distance relationship isn’t easy. To be with the person you love, and to be able to call them yours, you’re going to have to forego the things that everyone around you seems to have, in the way that you won’t be able to. It isn’t so much of a struggle as it is a sacrifice.

Because it’s not the easiest thing. I’ve spoken to people who’ve told me that my relationship “doesn’t count”, because I’m not able to physically be with Yap, and vice versa. That’s some bullshit, honestly.

Really, korg xpnah dgr YM? Yap and I have long, rambling conversations every single day over YM. They could be the most ridiculous things,from laughing to how we 1st fall in love,to planning the future together and etc.Our love does travel. It travels, every single day, over the YM and messages we send each other. Our love travels over Skype, when his eyes light up when I pop up on his screen, giving me butterflies. Our love can be felt over Skype, falling asleep together whenever we can. Our love travels through slide show of our pictures, songs, the little things we send each other.It travels the miles, every single day. Not physically , though it would, if I could — but through the little things. I can feel it in the way he sounds when he tells me that he loves me. Or in the way I turn around whenever I can smell his perfume, to find him… and the way my heart sinks when I realize that he isn’t there.

Our love doesn’t just travel. It transgresses all these things. 

Mmg bukan senang, and maybe we miss out on the little things, for most of the year. Tapi tu bmakna, kami akan lebih appreciate bila kami bersama.Yap and Mai akan jumpe setahun sekali je, so time neh lar kami akan plan mcm2. Setahun sekali je bjumpa? it sucks! but we realise how important communication is.
We plan for the future and work towards that.We accept and appreciate our differences —We work through our differences.

Over the course of the 4 years we’ve been together, I’ve come to realize that I don’t have to validate my relationship to anyone else. I will defend it, if need be, because it’s my decision to be with him. He picked me, and I picked him. Still, people will see what they want, and speak with no filter.
But then, once you realize that your man — your handsome, amazing, smart, talented, adorable, wonderful man — chose you to be with, and puts just as much effort into the relationship as you do… well, the weight of that kind of makes what they say completely irrelevant. Because there are two people in a relationship, and you’re in it with your man.

And my love — our love — travels. It travels, and transgresses, and grows.
Every single day.